May’s theme is a rhyme!

May 1, 2011 Leave a comment

Every month so far this year in 2011, we’ve matched letters. For example, January was Jesus month, February was Family month, March was Marriage month, and April was Answers month. Now, in May, there is no matching letter for the theme I want to do so I am just going to do a little rhyme. We want to look at the manifold wisdom of God in a little book He wrote called Proverbs! Each day, we will choose a proverb or two of the day to reflect upon. So, May is Proverb of the Day month!

What’s great about Proverbs is that there are 31 chapters so it’s perfect to sync one chapter with each day.

Billy Graham did this – he read a proverb for whatever day of the month it was – every day for most of his life. On the 1s, he read the 1st proverb and on the 2nd, the 2nd proverb – every day for every month of most of his life. No wonder he was so very wise! He was learning wisdom from God, the source of all true wisdom!

Let’s be like Billy this May as we deem this month: “May the Proverb of the Day” and let’s witness the Manifold Wisdom of God in Proverbs.”

-Mark (thankful for one of the most valuable books for biblical counselors, Proverbs)


April Answers

April 1, 2011 Leave a comment

Ok, so in April, we will read God’s Word to find the answers to blogged questions. If you have a question, email it to me at and I’ll see what I can do to answer it in the month of April.

April is “Answers” month! That’s our theme.

Each day I blog I will start out with a question in the title and answer it in the blog!

What I hope to accomplish is that you will see that the Bible provides us with many answers!

-Mark (glad for the answers God has provided us in His Word)

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Why God Hates Divorce

March 13, 2011 Leave a comment

Malachi 2:16 is often quoted (NKJV): “For the LORD God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts.”

So why does God hate divorce so much?

This verse tells us that it clothes a person in violence, not love. Marriage involves choosing to love another person, even when they are not “lovely” to love. They may act sinfully or selfishly but you choose to love them as Christ has loved you. It’s a choice.

People do NOT fall out of love. They only choose to quit thinking “loving” thoughts about their spouse and really begin thinking “hateful” thoughts about their spouse. Is it any wonder why they would claim to have “fallen out of love” with their spouse when they only think hateful thoughts about him/her?

Those hateful thoughts lead to violence. When someone divorces a spouse, they are suing that person. A divorce is a lawsuit against a spouse. It’s hateful. It’s violent.

The persons getting a divorce quickly become adversaries when they were never intended to be such. Instead of being one flesh, they are pulling apart something that God never intended to be separated. Imagine sawing your body in half at your belly button. That’s what a divorce is and that’s what it feels like.

So, does God hate divorce? Yes. Why? Because it does not bring glory to His name and it hurts, separates, encourages hate, and promotes violence. It will only bring heartache and harm to those family members involved, and that includes MORE people than just the two spouses!!!

-Mark (hating what God hates: divorce)

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Two at a Time!

March 10, 2011 2 comments

I am a multi-tasker. Not that I do all of the tasks well, but I like to accomplish two things at one time.

I heard a song called “One Small Step” by a group called Downhere. I like those guys because they are theologically sound (for the most part) and smart. This song in particular has the following lyric in it:

“I know it’s gonna be a hard day…We’ll take one small step, two at a time.”

What a picture of marriage! Walking alongside your best friend, your spouse, taking one small step TOGETHER. God gave Adam Eve because he was lonely in Genesis 2.

Our TIL ministry is summed up by this “one small step, two at a time” philosophy of two by two ministry where we provide two biblical counselors working together! There are no better partnerships in our model of ministry than married couples that the Lord has brought together!

I love it! Team work! Based upon Luke 10:1.

No one ever has to do ministry alone, especially married persons, what a way to improve your marriage relationship: do discipleship ministry together!

In a world where we feel alone all of the time, it’s nice to do ministry alongside all of the faithful servants in TIL!

-Mark (working with others to spread the good news)

A new book on marriage?

March 7, 2011 Leave a comment

A dear friend of mine encouraged me to write a book on marriage and I may do it one day, but there are many great books out there on marriage.

One such book is the Bible. Ephesians 5 is one helpful passage in God’s Word and there are many others. Search the Word and look for principles on loving your spouse. You can apply any principle on loving others to marriage! What a novel idea – apply principles on love to my spouse!

A simple book and easy to read is by Eggerichs called Love and Respect. Wayne Mack has written an excellent book on marriage called Strengthening Your Marriage and it will challenge, encourage, and strengthen your understanding of marriage.

I have written a booklet on marriage that has received “critical acclaim” and is being used in many biblical counseling ministries around the country. It is called “Hope and Help for Marriage” and the view is that one must love a spouse REGARDLESS of how they have been treated/loved based upon the love of Christ. It is encouraging because we call ALL do that – love others regardless of how they treat us since it depends only upon our actions, not theirs, to love them. Hope that makes sense!

Marriage is hard because two sinners living together do not always get along and often want their own way. But God puts in a new spirit within us as Christians and we are enabled to love as He loves – and we can love anyone, even our enemies…and our spouses!

-Mark (learning to love my neighbor, near one, as much as I already love myself)

P.S. My booklet is available through

“getting some love”

March 4, 2011 1 comment

I hear these phrases like “so and so artist is getting some love from other artists in music” and it makes me sad. Why?

Because they are misusing the word “love” – that’s not what this is! It’s not love. It’s attention. It’s publicity. It’s respect. But it’s not love. It’s not unconditional love for sure! It’s not the love of Christ.

I think today our society really doesn’t even know what love is. Certainly, in most marriages, people think “love” fades and goes away which leads to divorce. But true love is a choice. Love gives. Love is an action.

I guess in that sense, “getting some love” might make more sense but it’s still a stretch.

I know I am nit-picking but I want people to think biblically rather than like this world.

-Mark (striving to think more like God who is The Truth in Love)

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March is “Marriage” month!

March 1, 2011 Leave a comment

I thought about a March Madness theme since I’m a basketball nut and since most people think marriage is madness, but instead, I decided to theme this month as March Marriages to focus upon God’s purpose for marriage which is good according to Genesis 2:18:

Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

God knew it was not good for man to be alone so He instituted marriage. Before the fall of mankind and sinful state of being, marriage was good – look at Genesis 2:24-25:

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

Both of them were naked and transparent in their relationship together PRIOR to their own sin in Genesis 3:7:

Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths.

Those fig leaves were necessary because now they knew they were naked since they ate from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil and disobeyed the Lord. The fig leaves separated them from a complete and honest relationship without sin.

Thus, marriage became a challenge according to the consequence in Genesis 3:16b:

“Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.”

Now, in a sinful and fallen world, there is a battle of the sexes that leads to many divorces. Unless people are submitted to Christ, their marriage will likely end in divorce these days due to this curse upon marriage due to mankind’s sin.

So, let’s focus on redeeming our marriages in the month of March and search the Word of God for answers to solve marriage problems.

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